To be blunt, you cannot truly help a person (without debilitating disabilities) who does not want to help themselves in life.  There are a variety of proverbs that illustrate the point.  You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.  Give a man to fish, and he eats for a day.  Teach a man to fish, and he eats for a lifetime.  It’s one thing to give someone food or money once, but that does not fix why he needs it.  You can even give him food or money for a lifetime, but that still does not fix the core issue as to why he needs to keep needing someone to give him food/money.  You cannot make someone do anything, but you can make him dependent and worthless in the event of a natural disaster.  Everyone should be able to survive on their own if the grid goes offline.